Dating is the first step to love. I am going to give you a
simple guide to find your dream-lover. First of all, you will
need to call the following basic equipment into full action:
brain, eyes, ears, lips and hands. That's all you need, at least
in the beginning. Hang on, I know what you are going to say,
“are you nuts Zak forgetting the vital ones.” Let me clear this
mystery once and for all, which has dazzled billions for
thousands of years. I am talking about love here. Before feeling
the warmth of the fire, it has to be built up from a spark.
Dating is the first step to love. I am going to give you a
simple guide to find your dream-lover. First of all, you will
need to call the following basic equipment into full action:
brain, eyes, ears, lips and hands. That's all you need, at least
in the beginning. Hang on, I know what you are going to say,
“are you nuts Zak forgetting the vital ones.” Let me clear this
mystery once and for all, which has dazzled billions for
thousands of years. I am talking about love here. Before feeling
the warmth of the fire, it has to be built up from a spark.
Learning to redirect the energy going out and coming into your
body through thoughts, vision, hearing, speech and actions in a
way which others will find attractive is absolutely critical and
is where most tumble. Even moving the mouse or typing on the
keyboard is use of energy. It is vital to bring your energy in
tune with the wavelengths of your love-interest.
You may ask, “why is it then when I put so much into my
relationship with an ex it did not work”? Fair question. Here is
a simple tip which will forever change the way you look at
people. Do you agree every person has a right to do whatever
they want if it is not intruding in anyone else's business?
“Yes?” - Correct answer!
Let's look at an example. When you offer to do something for
others to the point where they feel like you are not allowing
them to make choices of their own, you have intruded on their
right to independence. This causes them to resent and think you
are trying to enforce your will even though your intentions are
completely different. Of course no one should stop doing favors
for their lover or helping out. Simply be yourself and allow
others to be themselves.
1. The first and most important rule in love is to respect the
individuality of your lover allowing him/her to make own
choices. If you make decisions together, consult to show you
believe in him/her.
2. Second love requires effort. Everything in life is determined
by how much you put behind it. Sometimes luck may give you an
edge, but only those who work on it stay ahead. Have fun and
stop treating it like something you need but find inconvenient
getting done. Prioritize and put more time and energy behind it
like you would behind getting an education or doing a job. Go
for it with passion. Believe if not today, there is a tomorrow!
3.The third rule is to be confident. I cannot stress this rule
enough even if I were to hang on a tree upside down for you.
“Yeah but I can never gather the nerves”, is what you may tell
me. There are tons of ways to boost yourself for which I don't
even have space to write. I will show you the fastest and
easiest way, which is to stop the things which destroy
confidence. If you are able to stop negative influences, you
will automatically be able to disengage from the battles of life
and focus on doing some gardening in your love life. From my
experience and research the main reasons because of which
people's wills crumble are:
* Past experiences
* Current relationships
* Work environments
* Pre-set attitudes
* Lack of Communication
* Too much negativity. Too little positiveness
* Refusal to disengage from battles when victory is more
expensive than loss
Each one of us is fully capable of doing whatever our heart
desires. Everyone's case is different and you will have to look
at specific issues and see where to make improvements. Not all
changes are easy and sometimes you may have to choose an option
which looks less secure but at least you are exchanging for
happiness. What worth is life lived in sorrow?
4. The last and most important rule is to be ready to change.
Only by setting a new course will you be able to steer the heart
out of the stormy waters of pain and loneliness. Decide now on
what you want? Take a sheet of paper and write down, the
questions which have been bugging you, with detailed answers.
Empty the sadness, so your mind can think clearly. Are you happy
the way you are right now? If you had an opportunity to get to
where ever you always wanted to be, are you ready to rise? Are
you ready to stand up from the past and build a future? Arise if
you believe you deserve better! Remember hardships may come by,
but those who pursue the path of their hearts with honest
ambition never fail.
You don't have to become a different person overnight. Just
starting the process by doing one little thing a day
consistently is enough to change the direction of your life. Of
course if you have the courage to make whole-scale changes go
for it. Most importantly, never look back once you decide to
move forward.
Take the above rules to your heart and I will guarantee your
love life will explode with more sound and resonance than you
ever dreamed. Also keep in mind even though you do need to work
on the above to attract the right people don't hold yourself
responsible if your previous lovers let you down for something
which was not your fault. The rule of Karma is what goes around
comes around and they will reap the fruits which they sow. Be
reasonable. It is not the end of the world and move on because
there is still much more to explore.
You have the tools and the fire of passion to convert desire
into reality. Drop the hooks you have been using to fish in the
pond of love and look into its waters as the reflection leads to
the path from which dreams emerge.
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